Kids Need Boundaries
It is of the utmost importance to give our children good boundaries. You see, children cannot oblige until they know without a shadow of a doubt exactly what is required of them.
But what is a boundary? It is where one person finishes and another person begins. Only once our kids know the boundaries can we expect them to be odedient. Kids will always push the boundarties but they want boundareis to be in place. The boundaries help children to feel secure. I know it sounds funny but kids actually do want to have rules in place. When they push them and we remain firm, kids feel relieved.
When we are consistently sticking to our boundaries, life gets easier for us. But when we go back on our word and let our kids violate these boundaries we will pay the price. Once kids know that you will give in once, they will keep on pushing those boundaries again and again and again.
You will find that it might take you three months to recover from one slip up. When you change your boundaries and are inconsistent the kids want to know if they can get away with doing it again, and so on.
Bottom line, do what you say you are going to do and don’t waver. If you wish to change your boundaries, get together and chat to your children so that they understand what will be happening. Give them some advance warning. Kids always like to know what is going to happen in advance, so don’t disppoint them!
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