My father was absent for most of my childhood. I mean he was there physically but he removed himself from connecting with me on any level. As he approaches the end of his life I am forced to grieve what I never had. Over the years I have felt the consequences and pain of not having a relationship with my father when I was a little girl.
A fathers role in a daughters life is one of the most important relationships a girl is entitled to. A father's role is to give his daughter strength, to help her have a good set of values, to be positive, to overcome anger and most of all to make her feel special.
My husband and I knew we wanted to parent different from the way we were parented and we were fortunate to find the right role models to teach us, give us insight and wisdom to parent in a way to support our children’s emotional needs.
The minute our daughter was born she went straight to my husband. Straight onto his bare chest. The two of them finally met. He held her tiny warm naked body against his chest. Skin on skin. This was the most moving experience I was fortunate to witness. I had already bonded with her when she was inside of me. It was crucial now for her to meet her dad and bond in those first few minutes. And they did. The love he poured into her was palpable. She cuddled into him like they were old friends. For 12 uninterrupted minutes I witnessed the most purist of love. An exchange of the deepest love possible. She was content in his arms and he was in love. The memory still brings warmth to my heart.
He knows his role as her father and he is committed to it whole heartdly. He takes her on dates and she laps him up. When she doesn’t get enough of him, she lets him know. We are very aware of these cues and he reschedules what he has to so he can give her the time she is needing from him.
It is important for mums to support this relationship. I know the pain from not having it with my father and I love my husband for commiting to his role with his little girl.
I am so grateful to Sphinx Spiritual for teaching me how to be a better parent and now it is my passion to teach other parents how to support the emotional wellbeing of their children.
If you would like to have a consultation don't hesitate to contact me. Wisdom comes clarity and change. And change brings growth. You have to love that. xx
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For further ways to connect with your child there is a great article at https://www.mydeal.com.au/blog/post/connecting-with-your-children