My 12 year old son is changing and so must I. Teenage years are close and his body will soon rapidly change but right now he still has his baby soft skin and cuteness about him. On the inside, though he is in the thick of change and even with my knowledge and studies I am being tested. I know that at 12 he is not yet an adult but in his mind he is ready. I can see his frustration and his maturity is showing. He is working out things about people around him. He is no longer fooled or deluded by people’s behaviour. He is speaking his mind, speaking out and standing up for himself. I just wish he would do it with a little more grace!
Spiritually I have been taught that each age brings about many emotional changes. There are significant developmental changes which occur emotionally and this will affect a child’s behaviour. If we don’t pick up on the changes there can be negative outcomes which are taken right through to adulthood. During these changes we find we no longer understand our child, tension grows and we can miss supporting them when they need our help.
So as my 12 year old enters the stage of feeling that life is hard I need to allow him to feel his feelings but to remove any deluded thoughts and help him process why he feels that way and help him see things from a different perspective. I don’t want him to have this belief as an adult and develop negative behaviours to support such a flawed belief. It could cause him to be bitter and resentful and isolate himself from others. So I am paying close attention to his comments, his behaviour his emotions. I am proud of his developments but tested when he is negative. This transition is a work in progress, moving forward with awareness and support. Our emotional wellbeing affects the way we act, think and how we feel about life. It is equally important as our basic physical needs.
If you can see that your child is going through a change on the inside and you want some support please come and talk to me. I can help you cope as a parent and I will bring clarity on the steps forward in supporting your childs emotional wellbeing. Now that feels better already. You can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org for face to face consultations or Skype.